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12 Things My Long Distance Relationship Taught Me

Skipper was gone learning how to save the world this summer leaving me half way across the country. It was only 2 months and I did survive. Here is what I learned:

It is HARD


Enough said.

It sucks

It does. Especially in the beginning and when you see all the annoyingly happy couples who pop up ALL THE TIME and all you want to do is choke them. But that subsides. A little.

You won’t always feel lonely


In the beginning especially then after a while you accept the fact that your closest relationship is, in fact, with your cell phone. This is the magically point in time where it totally becomes 100% acceptable to stop shaving and well forget the annoying beauty routine. Also I have been known to watch TV while talking to him on the phone. (Hi Skipper!)


Don’t do it. You’ll be like oh I’m fine, today has been a cake walk and then it’s 2 a.m. and you’re crying on the phone to your half asleep best friend. Like I said. Bad choice.

It does get easier

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It will. Eventually you do realize that you can literally do whatever you want and spend every second with your friends and well it’s not like he’s going notice!

Your relationship will change, I promise

Not in the OMG WE’RE GOING TO END. Well I am sure that happens but it didn’t to me. You just become better friends because well lets be honest here, sex is not a thing.

It is okay to not want to talk to them

I promise. It has happened MANY times to me. Some nights I truly just did not want to hear about how awesome the Navy was/is because that was the reason I couldn’t see him. Other nights I felt ignored and like I was always going to come second to whatever it was he thought was more important that night and I just didn’t want to deal with it anymore

Stop listening to Ed Sheeran and go do what you love

Ed Sheeran is not going to sing him/her back. So do what YOU love. I did and it helped. I volunteered, read EVERYTHING, hiked, saw my friends and spent time alone and didn’t feel guilty doing any of it because well if he was going to be oh so annoyingly happy in BC. Damn it I was to and trust me it helps. When you spend time doing what you want the time does in fact pass quickly.

See your friends often, but don’t let that stop when they come home


I saw my friends all the time when he was gone and as much as yes he is home now and I am very happy for that, those girls who were there for me when he was gone are also the same girls who are still there for me now. So see them because there are something Skipper will never understand and somethings that only friendship will heal.

Fights happen.

They do. Even from a distance. The only nice part is you get a lot of time to think it through when you don’t have to see them for another 6 weeks.

FaceTime and Skype are no help

Well they are if you are cool with a super high phone bill or a super awesome wifi frozen screen.

It’s okay to not feel ready to see them

I didn’t. I was terrified that everything would change and it would all be different and I wouldn’t know him like I use to. And to be honest I didn’t know parts of him any more but the blessing in disguise there is you get to meet them all over again in a way.

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2 Bags, 1 Canoe and an Adventure: 10 things I learned in the Woods

Skipper and I went back woods camping. So we packed 2 bags and canoed into a lake side campsite and well camped. I have never done anything like this. I love my hiking and I have secretly always wanted to do this but I was nervous about doing it on my own. So I went with Skipper and here is what I learned:


Only take what you can carry.

In life and in camping. There is no sense picking up a bag that is to heavy to manage. It will only do more harm than good. The very last thing you need on a camping trip is an injury.

You will never be prepared for everything

In no universe will you have everything. You could have 98% of it but you won’t have it all. And sometimes you have to pick what to live without. Trust me sitting under a tarp in the dirt cooking while it lightly rained was not my idea of fun and I wished we had room for our camping stools but sadly it never works out that way and sometimes it has to get left behind.

Sometimes you have to disconnect to connect again

Skipper had been gone for two months and in that time as much as we became closer friends, I felt there was still a distance between us when he got home. And honestly not having cell coverage or the ability to charge our phones meant that we had to face time and not the apple version with spotty wifi, real and true face time and I can’t speak for him but I finally feel like we are almost back to us.

Nature will ALWAYS inspire creativity

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Lately I have been at a loss for creative inspiration. Even developing blog posts and content has been hard and I am sure everyone goes through dry patches but it felt weird for me. I felt stuck. So this camping trip could not have happened at a better time. I feel refreshed and inspired and ready to write my heart out again.

Canadians are blessed to have what we do in our backyard


The more I explore this beautiful nation the more and more this statement becomes true. We are blessed with a rugged untouched landscape that begs to be discovered. We have likely the most diverse country on the planet and sadly some people never see it. I know I sound like a beer commercial but it’s true. We are the luckiest of the lucky to have what we do. So go and get wild and explore the untouched.

It will take more than a match to light a fire

Unless it is dryer than the desert, one match won’t cut it. You have to nurture that small flame before it can grow. Like an idea, yes you will get that initial spark but in order to turn that spark into a decent sized fire, it needs love. It needs some starter and small pieces of food before you can throw it a log.

You can’t hold your breath long enough in an outhouse

I’m serious. Don’t breathe. It’s awful. And breathe through your mouth for a bit after. Just saying.

It doesn’t matter what anyone says you will still fear snakes

Yep. Yep yep yep. It’s true you can go roll in the dirt all you please but the fear of snakes won’t end. Trust me.

Say yes, you may surprise yourself

I never thought I would like fishing, shooting, or camping in the woods but I do and it is all because Skipper asked and I said yes. So say yes, you may be shocked at what you find.

No matter how bad the storm gets, you will find peace again

I have been through a lot in the last few months and there were times when I thought I could never be happy again but being in the woods and seeing how big and beautiful our country is but a lot into perspective for me and well gave me a peace I haven’t felt in a long time.